Grow in Your Faith and Overcome Perfectionism

Hey friends! Happy New Year! I am so excited to help 2020 become one of the best years of your life. Break free from the grips of crippling issues that are keeping you from reaching your fullest potential. One of the most common problems that we face is this overwhelming sense to be perfect. This post will help you understand the dangers of perfectionism. I will also share with you the truths that I have learned, through my faith in God, that enabled me to wage war against my perfectionist tendencies and embrace my imperfections.
What are the effects of perfectionism?

If you are anything like me, you may have thought that being "Type A" or being a self-proclaimed "perfectionist" is a great thing.

Don't get me wrong, it can be, but did you know that a perfectionist mindset can cause you to:

1. Place unrealistic expectations on yourself, friends, and family.

2. Develop fear and anxiety from not being perfect.

3. Feed your pride, where you develop a false sense of superiority.

4. Impact your relationship with God.

Understanding these three things will help you overcome perfectionism

Understand that God is NOT in love with a future version of you.

As perfectionists, we are always striving for a level of perceived perfection. We often say, "when I get to this, I will be this…" This mindset implies futuristic components that we work towards, regularly.

The Truth: God has something far better for us to strive toward than our idealized perceptions of perfection, that can harm ourselves, others, and relationship with God. God loves you now, in your weakness. He loves who we were, are, and will become.

Understand that God knew that we would struggle with our perfectionistic temptations and tendencies!

God, the creator of all things, He is omnipotent (all might, all-powerful, all-knowing) and omnipresent (continuously present). God is so good and intentional; He gives His children the living word, the B.I.B.L.E. It's our:

B- basic

I- instructions

B- before

L- leaving

E- Earth.

What does the Bible have to do with perfectionism?

The Bible shares instances and stories of His amazing and phenomenally patient grace toward sinners who continued to fight with imperfectly, and stumble in, their sin. He wants us to know that perfection in behavior and motivation is entirely out of our experiential reach in this age. Therefore, He sent Jesus to die for our sins (insert wow here). 

Understand that we must allow the "Perfect You" to die (spiritual death to result in being "born again"), so God can transform you into the likeness of His son Jesus.

Galatians 2:19-21 Good News Translation (G.N.T.) says it best…

19 So far as the Law is concerned, however, I am dead—killed by the Law itself—in order that I might live for God. I have been put to death with Christ on his cross, 20 so that it is no longer I who live, but it is Christ who lives in me. This life that I live now, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave his life for me. 21 I refuse to reject the grace of God. But if a person is put right with God through the Law, it means that Christ died for nothing!

What Paul is saying in this passage is simple: if we were able to be perfect, Christ's death on the cross meant nothing! Once we accepted Christ as our Lord and Savior, we were instantly made perfect in the eyes of God. In the end, making Jesus your Lord and Savior is the key to live free and for all eternity.

Resources for Perfectionists

Need more resources to help you through your journey to overcoming perfectionism? Well, look no further! I've rounded up some fantastic self-help books to help you on your journey. These books help empower on your path to learning how to live free imperfectly.

10 Books every Recovering Perfectionist Should Read

· The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by BrenĂ© Brown

· Brave, Not Perfect: Fear Less, Fail More, and Live Bolder by Reshma Saujani

· Mom Set Free: Find Relief from the Pressure to Get It All Right by Jeannie Cunnion

· How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless by Stephen Guise

· The Pressure Trap: Breaking Free from the Pressures of Society to Become Who God Called You to Be by Heather Lindsay

· Nobody's Perfect: A Story for Children about Perfectionism by Ellen Flanagan Burn

· The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes by Mark Pett

· Breaking Up with Perfect: Kiss Perfection Good-Bye and Embrace the Joy God Has in Store for You by Amy Carroll

· Grace, Not Perfection (with Bonus Content): Celebrating Simplicity, Embracing Joy by Emily Ley

· Present Perfect: A Mindfulness Approach to Letting Go of Perfectionism and the Need for Control by Pavel G Somov PhD

I hope this helps guide you on your journey to overcoming perfectionism. Rember, all good things take time and effort. Give yourself the same amount of grace that God gives to us.

Live Free, imperfectly friends.

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